There is a trend in adoption fundraising to have “sales.” These sales give adoptive parents a percentage of their profit. There are TONS of companies and direct sales reps willing to help with our fundraising efforts.
Help support the Jones’ adoption and 40% of all sales will go towards their adoption.
This can be a great way to raise the money needed for the first half or your home study, or your application fees. I have yet to see someone raise the funds to pay for their dossier, or the translation of their dossier for that matter.
I do not find anything wrong with these fund raisers except that you have to do so many of them to see a difference in the large amount needed to adopt. Not everyone wants to adopt. Not everyone can afford to adopt. Heck! We can’t afford the cost of adoption but we can afford to raise another child. If you think about what it costs to raise a child, it’s a ton. You do, however, have a stretch to pay for these everyday expenses.
The OB does not say “Alright then, it will be $250,000 payable at birth.” Very few people would have children if that were the case. We have three children. Three wonderful, talented, smart, and beautifully giving children. Parental pride has me in tears when I see my children do for a complete stranger what some children will not do for family. Yet it is not my doing, not entirely. I gave them the foundation and example and let them run with it. They give and do for others because it is what we should do.
On that note, have you ever tried to give a donation to a fundraiser without buying something? We have run into organizations looking at us like we are crazy. The members doing the fundraiser do not know how to respond. “You have to buy something.” But we don’t want to. If I have $100 to buy “something” to support Blah Blah foundation, I would rather they actually get $100, not $40!
That’s not to say I am not selling stuff to help with our adoption expenses. I am a DS consultant/designer and so my sales are my income and I will give 100% of that to my adoption agency. I do fundraisers for others wishing to sell my products to help raise money for their cause.
My problem is and will always be, why do people need stuff to show they supported something? Isn’t it great to know that you helped someone or something acheive their goal without showing it off to others.
Having participated in international hosting(it is touted as orphan hosting, yet most are not orphaned, but neglected, abused, and abandoned) we have the relationship with wonderful young people that will last a lifetime. That is our proof. Love. Not that they appreciate the trip, which I am sure they do, but they love us and we love them. Not because of what they were financially given, but because we gave them a home, even though it was temporary, where they felt valued and loved. We continue to reach out to them and reassure them that someone loves them.
It was through this experience that we decided we needed to take this a step further and bring a child(or children) into our home as a permanent member of our family. There are so many that need homes. Domestic and International. A child is a child no matter where they come from. They did not ask for their circumstances and only want what every child wants, needs. Love. Family. A future.
So this has been my ranting post for the day. I will have others. I have had others. My irritation at people’s lack of compassion and the utter disrespect in their questions of adoptive families drives me bonkers. The need for people to take jabs at parents for the choices they make in the adoption process is unreal. You genuinely find out who are really your friends when you make a decision to adopt.