Philippians 4:12

Faith in life through good and hard times

Waiting

I sit on a bench and watch my younger children play at the park. Enjoying the sunshine and playing with kids that they do not even know.
I wonder what my other girls are doing right now. 6 hour time difference, so maybe sitting down to dinner. I hope that D had a good day at school and that their foster mother had time to play with the toddlers.
We are at a standstill with paperwork. Home inspection is on hold until we get word from our attorney about a traffic court issue.
I get sad and worried that we may not get things done in time. That we might lose our precious girls while the court system here takes it’s time getting around to setting a court date.
In the meantime, I am excited that D gets to spend Christmas with us.
My daughter and I have set up a shopping list on IKEA for bedroom furniture. Since we will go from having 3 children to having 6, a little rearranging is in order.
Our fundraising is going poorly and we cannot apply for grants until our home study is complete.
I know they have to make sure that kids are going to a safe home, but why do governments feel the need to charge so much for the process and paperwork.

Our donation site is live and our hosting deadlines are 10/15 and 11/15 if you feel the urge to give. Please feel free to share my link on FB or Twitter if you know anyone willing and able to donate. Thank you and God Bless you!

C

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Pot Shots on Facebook

As I am preparing to welcome a foster child into my home from Eastern Europe, I see “friends” post about how the need is so great here and if you are going to foster or adopt you need to “do it in your own country.” No mention of me personally, however I am the only one in the “circle of women” that has mentioned inviting a child into my home with the plan of adopting her and her siblings in the future.
Yes there is a need here in the States, but does that mean that we are to ignore the hundreds of thousands of children worldwide that do not have families.
I don’t remember James saying that we are to take care of widows and orphans, but only if they live in your country.
Why does this bother me? These women were my friends. They obviously now spend an awful lot of time discussing me and my choices.

Am I in any way deterred from what I feel like God has called us to do? No! It just furthers my resolve. I do not need their support, although as my friends I sort of expected the “you are crazy, but we love you” support. Not the unilateral attack on my decision to adopt internationally instead of domestically.

He know the plans that He has for me. And if it is His will that I adopt domestically, he will close these doors that have opened for us and open new ones. Until then, we proceed with our uphill climb to the open door and the girls that are waiting for our family there.

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I Love My Children

So, today we told our youngest son that we were planning on adopting three girls from Eastern Europe. When I had all three children in the living room, we discussed living arrangements when we have 6 children in our 4 bedroom home. They have it all worked out.

I get to build two sets of bunks for the girls rooms, upstairs. Should be interesting, but it’s not like we don’t have time. Then, I get to build a “bed/couch/room” for my oldest in our basement. While the youngest will get the oldest’s room. Boys downstairs and girls upstairs.

I am thinking that I may have to con some of my carpenter friends into helping with said building projects. And soliciting some wood from a local lumber company. Next would be getting the batting and fabric to cover the oldest’s bed frame and making very large pillows so it can be used as a couch while not being slept on.  I have a friend that may help with that one! I hope!!!

A little light on my day!

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Pity Party Over

Ok, thank you all for the vent the other day.
We now return to your regularly scheduled positive(hopefully) adoption journey.

Received email from agency yesterday with approval! Yay! Now we have 40 kazillion more forms to fill out and have received our first of many invoices.

Email sent to home study case worker to schedule our first appointments. Double check what documents are needed. Best way to get them to her as she is 3 hours away.

Phone call to insurance company to verify they can get coverage while they are here before finalization.

Bank account set up to keep expenses separate. Email to accountant to go over financials and returns.

Fundraisers going on for hosting the oldest one for Christmas and for the adoption costs that are coming in already.

Meeting with our personal attorney to go over estate issues.

Love all this! Really, I do!

Bless you guys for reading and please keep our family and the girls in your prayers!!

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What Do You Do When…..

So we attended the wedding of my stepdaughter this weekend. It was a beautiful, though long, service. She was glowing and I was crying happy tears as I remembered her growing up and when she began dating her now husband. Ours is a different situation. We were not there being civil and polite to the mother of the bride and her husband, our daughter was adopted by her grandparents, my in-laws, when my husband was in college. Her mother was not in the picture and while my husband was away at school, they worried that she might show up and just take her. So they did what needed to be done to protect and provide for his daughter, their granddaughter.

When her mother was pregnant with her, at 15, my husband 17, they did what my mother-in-law told them they had to do; attend adoption classes. They had been to classes, met with church officials, and everything was set to give her up for adoption.

When she was born, they both decided that they could not do it. Neither of their parents were there. They wanted nothing to do with this new blessing.

Fast forward-They are now called Mom and Dad, although she knows that my husband is her father and she calls him Daddy. She had them both walk her down the aisle.

We have been together for 18.5 years. Married for 16. We have 3 children and are looking to add to that through adoption. So, my husband has 4 children. She has 2 brothers and a sister. Legally, she has a brother and sister(her aunt and uncle) and they refer to her as their sister. Their children call her Aunt. It makes for a confusing situation when we are all together. I think that is why us being there caused my MIL so much stress.

At rehearsal, my daughter overheard my MIL tell the coordinator that we, her father and I along with her siblings, were not to sit in the “family” pews. Ok, I can deal with that. Then, when I finally get there after having to walk 6 blocks in killer heels, I find myself sitting behind my brother-in-law’s in-laws. Seriously. We rank lower than they do. But I easily forget that as the service begins and I see my lovely daughter being walked down the aisle by two of the greatest men I have known.

At the reception, my husband does not even rank an introduction. During the slideshow of pictures showing the bride and groom as they have grown up, there were very few with my husband and none with me. In fact, I was cropped out of a photo.

I love my father-in-law, I love my new family through my new son-in-law(who, might I add, had absolutely no problem introducing us as such). I am done with people who are more concerned with appearance than truth, no matter how ugly it might be. It is times like these that make it hard to follow Jesus and show love to all. Especially those that don’t deserve it.

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HELP!! No orders means no money which means no adoption!!

I have multiple fundraisers going; some online and some locally.

Online parties are where you don’t have to come to my house give me any of your info, but you get something and support 2 things. You support our adoption through the proceeds that the company donates from our sales, and it helps support the consultant and their family. The amount donated to our adoption does not come from the proceeds of the consultant, rather, it replaces the “hostess rewards” that these companies offer. All monies are payable to the adoption agency as per organization rules for fundraising. So, you do not have to worry about the proceeds going to buy a new 60″ Plasma!

Tupperware Party

Origami Owl Party

Donate Tax Deductible for Hosting

Donate for our personal account for paying in country costs, travel and lodging

Donate To Family

Order your devotional puzzles here

Puzzles use promo code: Doran-Adopttogether

Donate Skymiles here to #9015047195

Please share this link of you Twitter or FB page and ask your friends to help support bringing three girls into a loving family. Something they have never had.

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I think I killed a tree today

After printing out the application for the adoption agency, the home study agency, and a few grant applications, I think I went through a ream of paper!

Funny thing is, running joke when filling out your mortgage is they want “everything but your blood type.” Well, in adoption, they kinda do!

We know that in addition to the applications, the home visits, and emails and more forms, fingerprinting, criminal background checks, we also have to have physicals. Not just us, the kids as well. Oh, and let’s not forget the dogs!

Our adoption is an international adoption. So we have a few more expenses. Immigration and travel. Other than that, it costs about the same to adopt domestically.

Rough Guestimate:
Home study: $2000
Local Agency Fees: $10,000
In Country fees: $20,000
Airfare and hotel for required visits: $20,000

First visit both of us have to go, for 3 weeks. Second visit, I have to return with oldest for 3 days. Third and final trip the girls and I all have to travel back for all the official adoption finalization and immigration/citizenship stuff for 5 days.

So, in other words, if you feel the need/pull/desire/call/force whatever, to help us bring these three beautiful girls home. You can donate to my youcaring page. If you want a tax deduction and the donation amount is over $100, comment below with your email address and I will give you the Agency’s info as they are a 501c3.

DONATE for ADOPTION costs

Thank you!!!

Peace be with you/Blessings/namaste/top of the morning to ya/y’all come back now!/may the force be with you!

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Adoption Fundraising

And so it begins!!!

Tupperware

I will be adding to this post as I create more links ;)

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Moving from Hosting to Forever Home

Anyone following this blog knows that we hosted a student this past summer from EE. She was amazing!! Not what the program director said is the usual. Her future is mapped out and she has a plan to get there. Not that common for most children in the system.

This weekend marks a big transition for a lot of children in EE that are in the system. At 16 they are “adults” and given the choice to go to a trade school or be on their own. With no family, no money, and sometimes, no hope, these teens often choose a life that is what we refer to as “easy money”. Drugs and Prostitution. It’s a lot of money and they are told that it is easy, but we all know that lifestyle is anything but easy.

School starts on Monday for those that are still young enough to be in the system.

This winter, we are hosting again. This time our host girl “D” is of age to be adopted. She has younger siblings with her in her home and God is calling me(and my family by default) to bring these girls back to be a part of our family forever. 

And then we get to the fundraising!!! Wow, so much money to be raised. We have money to raise for the host program, money to raise to pay for home studies, money to raise for all of the legal stuff with the agency.

So hosting donation site up:

Hosting (tax deductible)

Devotional Puzzle sales site up:

Order use promo code Doran-Adopttogether

Our fundraising page:

Adoptions (Currently not tax deductible but will move to tax deductible after home study and contract)

So I may be crazy, but I they need a home and I plan to provide it :)

 

 

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Not All “Christians” support ministry

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The story of the young child on the beach throwing starfish in the ocean before the ride goes out is a beautiful one. If you have not seen, or read it, please look it up and read the whole thing. Summary is:

Why do you try to save these starfish? You can’t possibly make a difference. There are too many.

To which the child replies, after throwing one more in the ocean:

I made a difference for that one!

Many of us feel a pull to do something. Whether it be for a homeless man you pass on the street, or a starving dog in a parking lot, you can make a difference. Some are called to give money because they cannot give of their time. Some give time because money is not available.

This year, we are giving our family life. We are extending an invitation into our home for a girl that has a temporary home and no real family to speak of. While my heart is crying out to make her a permanent part of our family, it is impossible. She is “unadoptable,” due to her age.

We have looked into student visas and there is so much bureaucratic red tape: Forms, fees, more forms, and more fees. Not to mention there is no financial assistance for them to go to school. So we would have to prove that we had enough money for her to attend college. We have three biological children. Seriously, where do we save $30k!?

In our host fund raising, we have been met with opposition. Lack of familial support. Lack of the support of our friends. Some have even stopped speaking to me.

Why aren’t they helping a kid in the States?

Isn’t she too old?

These kids have problems! They don’t know what they are getting themselves into!

I go through life remembering this: FROG To understand life and all it’s twists and turns, you must Fully Rely On God.
So I lift my eyes and my heart and rely on him to teach me that I made a decision based on my own choosing, or I am doing what He wants me to do.

We have set up a fundraising page to try and meet the goals set by the US federal government to hopefully bring our girl back. Hopefully to bring her into our family permanently :)

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